I changed my mind.

Over the past couple of years, without really knowing it, I have literally changed my mind. Reworked how I've been thinking about everything in my work-life to better suit myself. I've removed drama and friction. I've nearly eliminated unnecessary stressors. Weight-loss for my brain.

This all stemmed from working in circumstances that I couldn't understand. Crying at my desk, on my drive home from work or in a hotel room. How am I landing myself in these situations? It was maddening!

I think it was Tara Jaye Frank who outlined that Core Values are what you feel ❤️ while Core Beliefs are what you think 🧠 which has helped me work to better connect my Values and Beliefs.

Challenging my thinking has been incredibly risky but oh so rewarding. It doesn't mean I come up with snap decisions but it does mean I look at where I can make new, different and better-for-me decisions as I accumulate new information from my heart and mind.

There's been a lot to unpack over the years but I often ask one question to myself "Why do you think that?"

Here’s an example: “Why do I believe being a full-time, salaried equates to job security?” or, “Why do I believe working for <company name> equates to worthiness, potential, happiness?” or, “Why do I believe working one specific way equates to financial security?” The list goes on and on. Only I can answer the questions in a way that aligns to my Core Values and Core Beliefs.

There is no one way. There is no magic framework. There is constant change to recalibrate. There is putting in the work to better one's mind and soul.